I won't dwell on the Paula Deen fiasco. It's been hashed out and debated enough. People from both sides of the camp have eloquently stated their beliefs, albeit, some with more credibility than others.
My take on this is simple. The N word is never, ever acceptable. It is a vile word that objectifies black people as objects and negates their humanism. I know the arguments put forth by those that try to justify its usage: the primary assertion is that since blacks use the N word amongst themselves, that fact alone lends itself to its acceptability in our language. Do black people use that word...why yes they do. Does that make it alright and an acceptable word in our vernacular?.....Why no it doesn't. I believe that as the N word persisted throughout the generations, blacks used the words amongst themselves as a way of 'claiming' the word. If they claimed the word and used it, then maybe it would diminish the sting felt when a white person would use it towards them. Like I said, that's my personal belief of why some black people use the word. Do I think it's right? No I don't.
I think that any person using the word lowers themselves to that of a ignorant person who doesn't possess the knowledge to choose better words. It really, really pisses me off to hear the N word uttered by anyone.
My kids have heard this said to them in North Dakota. They heard it directed towards them at the parsonage. They heard the church council president tell us that he has used the N word and finds it acceptable. Let me tell you that hearing that word directed at your children is so hurtful it's actually a physical pain. I thought my heart with burst with sadness. I don't know why or how some people can still justify its usage today.
For the love of God people. It's 2013. Did you not learn in Kindergarten that two wrongs do not make a right? Just because someone else does something does not mean it's right or acceptable. Why can't we go back to the golden days of Kindergarten where name calling is a no-no and treating others the way you want to be treated is the rule? Now, everyone sit on your carpet square, criss-cross applesauce, and listen to the morning story about the brave new generation where regardless of skin color there is no name calling and everyone tries to get along.
There are scars, still. Even within the miracles.
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